That song has been running through my mind as I am tagging along on my husband’s business trip and visiting family here in San Mateo, Redwood City, San Jose and Menlo Park. The song is a great message about losing your way…and going back home.
“Fame and fortune is a magnet.” During our college years, we are sold a load of bull. We are told that education will get us prosperity and freedom. Then, we find that Corporate America is seldom a meritrocracy. There are other forces at play – like networking, mentorship and office politics. We are pulled into the culture of our jobs, without really accepting that the “rules” are fair.
“Weeks turn into years…and all the stars that never were are parking cars and pumping gas.” Our careers become a grind. For most of us, our “parking cars” jobs are actually endless emails in cubicle land, dreaming about a break. Rather than design a life that works, we are caught in a never-ending gerbil wheel—waiting and hoping to jump off and relax.
“I’m going back to find some peace of mind…” How do you find peace of mind in your Work-a-Day world? Or, even more difficult: How do you find peace of mind in your Job Search world, where every month that ticks by makes you more fearful and desperate?
I don’t have all the answers, but here are a few things that work for me:
Buy a beautiful journal and begin a conversation with yourself. Instead of just thinking your thoughts, put them down on paper. Examine your fears; you will likely see that they are really unfounded. My worst fear is becoming a bag lady—on the street, homeless. I have nightmares about it. When I see it written on a page, I realize how crazy this fear is.
Write about things that make you happy. Instead of focusing on the goals that currently elude you, write a list of things that thrill you today. I had a venti-skinny-mocha-extra-hot-decaf-soy latte this morning that was pure perfection. The sun is shining and it’s 60 degrees. My husband loves me and my grandbabies are well. Being grateful today brings good things in your life.
Write what you want to happen. Write statements about the future AS IF they are already fulfilled, in the present tense. Focus on what you want to happen, instead of what you lack. Here’s an example:
“I have a great job that provides prosperity for me and my family, and allows me to express my best talents.”
Do you know the way to San Jose? How do you get back to center? The job search and your career can pull you far away from home. Get back to YOU by escaping for just 10 minutes each day—with your journal and your dreams. Hit reply now and ask for my free “The Power of Intentions” report. It has a step-by-step system to help you set intentions to design the life you really want.